When Do You Question?

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Hey guys! I know I've been a while getting back on my job as a blogger, but I've been busy! HAH But seriously, I came with more food for thought for my eager readers...

We all know that I generally write about things that sometimes just pop up in my mind or certain conversation with friends or even just something I hear over the radio. Today is one of those if I were in their shoes type of day and I came up with a few topics that may interest use as far as relationships go.

My First topic is about infidelity inside the relationship, earlier today i was listenig to a podcast and one of the points the guest speaker made was, "Do we really want to know if our spouse and/or significant other is cheating? Are we really capable of accepting and handling the knowledge that yes my partner is seeing someone else. Especialy when infidelity/cheating is the only thing wrong with the relationship. Am i as a person willing to forgive and forget or is the infidelity enough for me to say goodbye? Am I willing to throw away years in a relationship that I've built with this person, am I just gonna leave and start all over again with a brand new person that may be no where close to the persn I'm with now? Will I submit?, let go the fact that this had happened and start a new chapter. Though with the notion that it may happen again some point in the future, to know that he holds my hand in the day, but caresses someone else at night? How much of a sacrifice should we make, and where do we draw the line and say enough is enough?"
These are all very good points,generally. I say this because with each person's relationship there are many different circumtanses and probablities. we would have to scrutinize each relationships charactaristics to understand why this paticular person made the decision they made. Wether finance or children or natural surroundings, if we were to place three different relationships under a microscope and put in the equation of cheating each other the victimized partners would react differently according to how severe the cheat was/is and the background of the relationship itself. I believe that to each there own. There's no real clear decision factor when it comes to dealing with a partners non-loyalty, although no matter to what degree of non-layalty it may be it is still a awlful thing to do to another. This is a person that is loyal, faithful, 100% committed to you entirely without consequence. The person stands by your side regardless of who's right and who's wrong. These are things that we need to thik about when we/if we decide that we're gonna step of on our partners. (I am in no way condoning, or saying that this is ok, because it's not) Although I will not hide the fact that infidelty is popular in America moreso than in any other country. All i can say is that if your ever in a relationship with someone you know cares about you deeply, and you know it would hurt if they found out that you were even thinking about it, do the right thing and express what it is that you want, eventhough it may not be them. It may hurt but at least you can say that you've been honest with yourself and to them also.

Next topic: When and how do we question our partner if we think that we are the only faithful partner in the relationship? From experience there is no absolute royal thumb to this question either. Speaking from both sides of the field, have been cheated on as well as cheated (within the same relationship). I can't say really what is the good option if you suspect that your partner is being unfaithful. You generaly know if your on a car ride with your boo and you say, " hey baby, you're acting different and I keep getting this sick feeling in my stomach, Are you cheating on me?" you know that you're probably gonna get a NO across the board. But then you may have a 'I can't tell a lie' person and they give you the truth if it be a yes or a no. Or it is not a good idea to check the cell phone bill and call all the numbers you don't know hoping for someone on the other end to pick and say hey baby. Even worse is to rip open the monthly bank statement and check all the transactions made in the last thirty days. There are so many crazy thing you could do to find out if your parnter is unfaithful. Some may be more insane than others, to that I say if you have to know and can't wait for the truth to rear it's little beedy eyes at you, then by all means stroke your ego. But I think the best tactic of all is the reverse trip, imagine your with your boo, who you the jeppers kreepers feeling about odd times of the day. Their acting differently all of a sudden, very private with things/or very general about speaking of things. And all the common stunts they play when they cheat. But you and your boo are having a great time, your out eating dinner movies whatever, but having good old fun, you go home give your boo all the tricks you have in the secret bedroom bag. Pull out the stops, massage, that porfessional he screams about, everything. Give it all up leave no rock unturned. (NO NOT YET!) go to sleep. And in the morning when your eyes are still red from no sleep, look him straight in the eye and ask then. You'll be surprised and so will they if their unfaithful to you, the confusion of the night before activities will throw them off trying to figure why you would ask that question at such a time. But when the conversation is done. You will definately know if they're given you the truth or telling a fat one.

to be continued...........